Beyond "Sunday"
-and- Beyond
"School"
(and
Beyond Wednesday Night Fellowship too)
Ideas for a New Ministry to Children
Updated for 2011
Part III in a series by Neil MacQueen
This is a "rough draft"
or think piece. I've been experimenting with various approaches
and ideas to Christian education for 30 years. The ideas in this article
are based on "what I know now" ...and in some cases, "wished I had known
then!" These ideas also come from discussions with many of you out in
the churches. There's a lot of collective wisdom, in part based on our
failures, but also on our successes. I hope you find this article
stimulating and challenging. <>< Neil
Many churches are struggling mightily
with their Christian ed programs. But some churches appear
to be doing a
nice
job in their children and youth ministry. I say "appear" because once
upon a time churches used to PACK their classrooms and youth rooms,
--but where are all those grown-up kids now? By 1970's attendance
standards, MOST Christian education programs today don't look so hot.
But I'm not harkening back to those days and ways, because had they
worked, all those kids would now be attending our churches, but they
aren't.
Common to both those doing well and those
not doing well is a sense that they should be doing "better" and
"different." Christian educators often have this nagging feeling. This
article is about ideas that address that nagging feeling that there's
something "more" or "better" ...because there is.
Those of us who've been at it have seen parts of that Promised Land.
BLAME GAME?
Some people want to blame the parents for not bringing their kids to
Sunday School. I don't (much). I think we got exactly what
we programmed them for. We bored them when they were kids, and then
spent the next 20 years of their life SHIFTING ADULT EDUCATION AWAY FROM
SUNDAY toward "small groups." We have cultivated expectations AWAY FROM
Adult Sunday classes, but continue to try and CAJOLE their kids'
attendance on
Sunday morning. We cannot have it both ways.
And I don't want to suggest "one change
fits all" because some churches have bigger fish to fry. I was in a church
that had growing worship attendance, but at the same time
experienced DECLINING Sunday School
attendance. Why? Because even though the children's offerings were great,
those in charge of adult Bible study couldn't
generate a decent adult Bible class to save their lives, ...and kids
can't drive themselves to church. (If they saw this linkage, and believe
me we pointed it out to them, they never had the commitment or skills to
address it. And eventually it became a self-fulfilling prophecy in that
new members joined the church who didn't expect or want good adult
education.)
So while I'm going to suggest
ALTERNATIVES to Sunday School, and tweaks to Sunday School, I'm not
suggesting that we GIVE UP on Sunday School.
Statistically speaking,
Sunday School and fellowship groups are the future lifeblood of the
church. Therefore it would be a HUGE MISTAKE to give up on it. And one
of my problems with the "Sunday School is Dead"
-Crowd, is that they are often those who didn't support it,
or drove it into the ground with their lameness, and have no experience
or desire to become part of the solution.
I write about and work at change because FAILURE is simply not an option.
PART I: Moving Beyond "Sunday" and Beyond "School"
Proposal #1: Move beyond "Sunday"
Is Sunday morning before 10 a.m. the BEST time in the 21st Century
to conduct children's Bible education? In some churches and places
in the country, the answer is no. It's only ONE time during the
week where we can conduct children's Bible education. (Notice I'm not saying
"get rid of Sunday School.") This should be no surprise
as we LONG AGO made this conclusion and decision about Adult Bible study
when we started offering alternative small groups to the traditional
Sunday morning adult class, and didn't schedule them every week.
The goal of Sunday School may ultimately
be this: to not just be "on Sunday."
Proposal #2: Move beyond "School"
"No more one size and one time fits
all" programming
If we didn't have our preconceived notions
and schedules to hold us back,
what would a program of events, classes, and experiences look
like that encompassed all the content we deemed important for
our children to learn over a period of years?
Based on some of our most successful
efforts, it would look a lot LESS LIKE kids in folding chair at 9 am on
Sunday every week. It would be VARIED and creative, not "one class or
nothing." It might incorporate a blend of special
limited-time studies on Sunday morning after worship, some special evenings,
some special retreats, some family ministry events, some home
groups, and some parent-led home teaching.
It would not offer
key content in just one format, place and timeslot. So for example", a
traditional "Sunday
night Communion Instruction Class" would be offered TWICE a year, rather
than once a year (no more "all or nothing"). And it would be offered at
different times to accommodate schedules. And then perhaps only every two years,
rather than every year. And it might look a whole lot more like a
special Family Ministry Event.... bringing the parents into the mix.
"Beyond School" would
offer additional opportunities for studies, resources, and experiences for those ready to go
deeper. So for example, a youth leader might have several books that they give
out to kids, and then invite those who read it to meet for hamburgers
and discussion. (Where would you get this "extra" time? By
reining-in the juggernauts. Paring back the Sunday school, fellowship
and VBS schedules which suck so much time and talent.)
It would recognize that kids mature at
different rates and are individuals, and thus, not every 9th grader is
ready to join the church at the same time. "Beyond School" would find
the pastor tailoring experiences to individual kids based on where they
were in their spiritual & church membership journey. (Where would you
find the time for this? By reducing mind-numbing meetings, and creating
hiatus' in the youth schedule. I'm a proponent of NOT necessarily
running Fellowship groups concurrent with the school year, but rather,
carving out weeks and months during the year for "a different type of
ministry."
"Beyond School" would include "cast your net" events designed
to attract the children of "less than active" members, -those who are often
ready to reconnect when the church offers something special or
different, such as the "rite of passage" events described below.
"Beyond School" would include several "rite of passage" events to
mark accomplishments and points of spiritual maturation. It would
incorporate youth, confirmation, family and adult ministries
in its design. It would view students as individuals with individual
needs, individual schedules and individual preferences, not "take
it or leave it." In my experience, even the POOR ATTENDING ADULTS want
their children and youth to be part of "rite of passage" events. Such
things are an untapped opportunity to "cast the net."
But Neil, they say, How Can We
Do This in an ALREADY Packed Schedule?
Answer: Unpack your schedule! Rein-in the juggernaut
calendars of Sunday School, VBS, fellowship groups and children's
choir. There's a time and season for every purpose.
Proposal #3 Start "Bringing CE to the Kids,"
...rather than only expecting the kids to come to CE
I propose that each church have a branch of its Christian education
ministry charged with the responsibility of bringing CE to the
kids, rather than bringing the kids to CE. Bringing CE to the kids
where they are isn't just about showing up at their home, though that's
not a bad thing to do if you're invited!
Ideas: -->> It's about training parents
to be their children's primary Christian educators. Its could mean
creating a Confirmation program that isn't all about classes in the
pastor's office, but just maybe about the pastor meeting with the
Confirmand in their home with their parents over dinner, and having some
things to talk about. -->> It's about a youth leader and a couple
of kids showing up at a student's soccer game, instead of whining about
how it interferes with the youth group schedule. It's about creating
Facebook group page for your church kids designed for the kids to stay
in touch with each other and for you to provide weekly encouragements.
It's about Twittering "thoughts of the week" to kids on their cellphones.
It's about putting Christian music CDs and software into their hands so
they can listen (and learn) on their own time. Such an approach would
give away books, and not just Bibles. And the books might not come from
'the church' ...but instead, be passed down from a sibling or a teen in
the church to a younger student with conversation about "why I liked
this book" and "when you're done, let's get together for a hamburger and
talk about it."
In fact, I would go so far as to say that any church which
is not actively working on a plan to reach children through their
homes, their parents, through their siblings, and reaching through their
church peers in
an "off-church-campus" way, is a program that
is living in the past, and not addressing current and future
needs.
The future of Christian Education may ultimately be to
become "un-churched" itself.
And oddly enough, that would look a lot like the
ministry of Jesus.
Jesus traveled the roads, visited the towns,
and went into homes. I'm not suggesting we abandon Sunday School on Sunday.
Rather, I'm suggesting we find new ways to enact what Sunday School is
supposed to be doing. Christ himself gave us the model and the
commission.... go out into the world, ...teach them all I have
commanded you. He didn't say "stay here and set up folding tables."
Sometimes his teaching did look more formal and localized. Take the Sermon
on the Mount for example, or the times where he is described as teaching in
the Temple. But also look at the varied locations Jesus went. Why? Because
he was looking for the sinners not the saints. If your Sunday School is
looking for the sinners and not just the saints, it has to get up and get
moving too.
The "look, feel, and shape" of such an "off-campus"
approach is uncharted territory for most of us. It's simply not
the way we were brought up or trained. And there are few published
resources to help -especially if you are of the Mainline Church
persuasion. But it must be innovated --or we will become increasingly
irrelevant due to the many factors mentioned in this article.
STATISTICS AND TRENDS ARE NOT DESTINY
IF WE HAVE THE COURAGE TO INVENT SOLUTIONS.
In his article, "Innovating on the Fly,"
renown
church growth consultant Bill Easum wrote one of the most true
statements about the church that I have ever read. And here I
am applying it to Christian education and Sunday School.
Easum writes:
"For the next fifty years,
the ability to constantly innovate "on the fly" will
present one of the most important leadership issues facing any
organization.
Not since the Reformation
has the need to discover new ways to achieve old things been
as important as it is today.
Those not secure enough to innovate
on the fly will be unable to effectively lead a church through
the next twenty years."
You can read the full article and
many other excellent Easum articles at http://www.easumbandy.com/resources/index.php?action=details&record=338
PART II: Ideas for a new ministry to children:
1. Family ministry!
It's the best children's ministry we can do.
Churches "have tried" and then seem to
lose interest in family ministry, not realizing it's something you must
build an expectation for --over many years. If you're not doing it
now, the parents now didn't expect it when they joined. What happens
over the years, however, is that you get families joining BECAUSE of
your family ministry. (This article is not about Family Ministry,
but there are many good programs and books on the subject.)
Do this: Take everything
you do in "children's ministry" and try to imagine what it might
look like if the family did it TOGETHER. I'm not saying "convert
everything over". But take Communion Education and
Confirmation, and Children's Choir, and the Christmas Play --for
example, and REDEFINE them as family events. As my previous "stats"
article noted, parents these days are looking for MORE things to do
with their kids, not less.
Now that I've said
"family ministry"...let me talk about children's ministry.
2. Do less "whole
group" programming that is year-round and facility based.
This will open up time for other opportunities to go out and
be where the kids are. New venues will create new opportunities
for interaction and keep us from offering only a classroom based
model. (Example: a children's group I know pledged to attend
events in which each member was already involved. The group would
show up at soccer games to watch individuals play, dances, school
competitions, etc.)
Note: A 2009 study conducted by the Barna
Research Group found that there is very little long term difference
between a child attending church events "every week" versus "2 or 3
times a month" -when it comes to the hoped-for result of "life-long
active participation."
3. Think beyond Sunday
morning. Organize opportunities to meet a variety of options
and schedules. Provide opportunities that have defined start
and end dates. Studies show that people find it easier to join
newly forming groups, rather than break in to existing ones,
and respond to defined lengths of commitment.
4. Create opportunities
that include parents, rather than viewing
parents as "the ride to and from the program." Indeed, if I had
to choose between Children's Ministry and Family Ministry, I'd choose
Family Ministry every time. Start to bring parents into leadership and
support roles early and often, and don't discontinue it just because the
kids get older.
5. Have a one-on-one
component where leaders go where kids live and play. See my article on
"the Tribe13 Experiment" for
how we implemented this idea in one church.
6. Seek to match each
child with an opportunity to serve in the life of the church. Service
builds disciples. It is spiritual education.
7. Expand the number
of ritual/rites of passage which children/youth can pass through,
rather than lumping it all into one Confirmation behemoth. Keep
these "rites of passage" easy to participate in (no
10 week courses), but special enough to draw wide interest.
8. Individual churches
will shape parts of their ministry to children in ways that capitalize
on strengths and unique opportunities. A real strength in the
church might be its tradition of camping, or service, or the
presence of large numbers of college students, for example. Such strengths present
unique opportunities to those churches. Yet some churches never look at
what they might be uniquely able to be and do, rather, they 'import'
their conceptions from other congregations.
Some churches have wonderful
children's choirs. Such programs are often viewed as "competition"
for Sunday School and Fellowship, and it's certainly true they compete
for TIME. But rather than viewing the choir program as
competition, re-imagine the choir program to INCLUDE elements of Sunday
School, biblical education, service and rites of passage. And where a
fellowship or education program competes for time with a choir program,
REIN-IN the schedules of both competitors. No where is it written that
children's fellowship HAS TO meet Sept-May. Or that the Sunday School
can't be used to produce a children's choir program.
More about "Capitalizing on
strengths". In one church where I served, we had a
wonderful wooded area where we created a campsite. The campsite
became a classroom, a retreat center, a VBS program, and a family
camping area.
9. Use technology to
"data-base" contact information about kids and their
activity/interests. No more losing kids through the cracks.
10. Planning meetings
should take time to focusing on the lives and needs of individuals in the
groups, both kids and leaders. Planning meeting should not just
focus on "plans." Leaders and teachers should be regularly discussing
"what they know" about their kids. Too often such knowledge is
haphazard.
11. Develop new standards
for measuring success and failure. "Only 5 kids showed up"
might mean, "those 5 kids got more personal attention than they ever
had." "We had a big turnout" might sound
great, but if no quality ministry or personal interaction took place,
then it needs to be judged. Meeting two teens for hamburgers and
discussion of a life issue, is probably worth more than a month of
Sunday night meetings with them.
12. Recognize that some
children/youth are ready for exceptional commitment and provide
a track for them to follow. Have you identified your
"Gifted Disciples" and challenged them? Or are they floating along with
the others?
13. All children's ministry
in the future must be equally focused on family ministry. In particular,
we need to to more encouraging and TRAINING of parents to talk about
faith in the home and in daily living. From my experience with young adult
groups and young family groups, just the KNOWLEDGE that other families
were also doing this at home, bolstered the parents commitment to this
ideal and practice.
About this idea.... We gave
them HANDS ON things to take home and DO, such as, Bible Dinner
Grace Placemats, and Home Seder Kits, and passing along a "Bag of
Videos" for families and teens to view together ---and one
simple question: "why do you think the church wanted us to see this
particular video together?" It was quite effective and much
appreciated by the parents.
14. Your thoughts here.
Neil MacQueen
Revised
2011
Neil MacQueen is a Presbyterian minister, Christian educator,
President of Sunday Software Inc., and leader in the Workshop
Rotation Model movement for reinventing Sunday School. Over the
years he has written and published numerous articles and two
books on Christian education, and led numerous conferences and
seminars. Part of Neil's ministry is addressing current issues
and future of Sunday School and Christian education. This article was first published at www.sundaysoftware.com.
Email Neil at
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